Oh dear, has it really been 2 weeks since my last post? Forgive me, friends, but I just needed a mental health break. I am coming off a really, really busy first half of 2008 with almost 30 speaking engagements/conferences, and honestly, I am a bit worn out! But, you know, it's so amazing that even in the midst of the tiredness, when I get to speak, I get re-energized so I know I am doing what God put me on earth to do!
But before I head into another 2 weeks of hiatus (off to Florida this week for 5 days then home for 2 days before my family and I go to Puerto Viarrta, Mexico for a week of vacation, yippee!!) I promised you a swimsuit discussion! So let's get to it.
Swimsuits are not like any other suits....you shouldn't wear them to the office, to the grocery store (although I've seen plenty of them there), or to a cocktail party. You don't wear them to church or to the movies. So why call them "suits"? That just doesn't seem fitting, does it?
But, suits they are, so here we go. When buying a swimsuit, you must understand your body. Where do you gain your weight? Are you small chested, big chested or somewhere in the middle? Flat tummy, large hips, long legs? Once you know and accept your body for the way it is made, then you can move on to finding the right style for you.
There are great suits out there that actually have a tummy shaper in them...they're great!
Anything that will suck in my extra fluff, I'm all about it! If you have any fluff on you at all, a 2 piece isn't for you, not even the tankini's...cause you'll just have a little fluff peak thru...not good.
A solid color will give you a longer, leaner line. Make sure you buy a suit in a shade that looks good on you. Don't just settle for black cause it's easy. Be careful of prints on a suit as these can draw attention to areas you don't want to draw attention to. An all over print is nice, though.
If you have fuller thighs, then you don't want a skirted suit, but one that has a higher cut leg. Fuller busts, make sure you have support in the bra area.
When buying a swimsuit, make sure you are comfortable in it. Buy up a size if you need to, then just cut the tag out and forget what size it is! Sit, jump up and down, make sure it's still comfy.
Also, make sure when you lift your arms, there is no extra fluff spilling over the top.
Make sure you have a 3 way mirror where you try on your suit and look at yourself from all angles. Your suit should have a smooth fit all over.
Long legs, don't go very high cut, otherwise you'll look out of proportion. Short legs, get a high cut leg. Narrow shoulders, don't wear a halter top, go for straps that sit wider on your shoulders.
That should get us started! Now let's start the Q & A's......what else do you want to know? I got you started, now get some questions to me and I'll answer them. Quick, summer's almost here! Beautiful Blessings....and I've missed you! love, Shari
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Stepparenting Advice
Hi all! I'm grateful the interview with Carly was so well received yesterday. I got lots of e-mails to my personal e-mail box as well as the comments that were left here. I think it's almost one of those subjects we still sort of push under the rug because we pretend to be this super steppie, and we're sooooo not. There were days, more than I care to admit, I wanted to stay under the covers all day just to get away from it all. A couple of you asked some questions to Carly and some were directed at either of us. We are going to attempt to answer them here.
The first question was from Margaret about siblings. She asked if there were any issues there and this is what Carly had to say:
C: I think my situation was a little different as I am a triplet and we were 10 years older than our step-brother, Luke. When my dad and steppie first got married it was weird because Luke was only 2 (almost 3), and we were 12. So of course he was spoiled...but he was also mothered big time by all of us. It hasn't been until recently that I feel as if Luke and I have really gotten to where a sibling relationship should be because of our age difference. He is my little brother, so of course we had the bickering and annoyances but now that he is older (13) it is cool to see how I influenced him and how he has some of the same passions as me so it is fun to speak words of encouragement and challenge into his life.
S: I'd like to add to that as well. (Shari) The hardest part about the sibling thing was that we shared custody with the girls' mom. So every 2 weeks (on Friday at dinner) was transition time. That was hard. It was hard for the girls coming from one set of rules to another and it was hard on Luke having the girls come and have his little world of "only child" be completely disrupted. It was hard on all of us. We all knew that for about 3 days, each of us, including Dave and me would be in transition. It was hard. Did I say it was hard? The kids fought alot, blamed each other on things, picked at each other, all just to get their biological parent to come to the rescue. Hard stuff. I don't miss that. Neither do they. We did see a christian family counselor for this and at the time we had custody one week on, one week off. This very wise counselor recommended we change it to every 2 weeks (which we did) because by changing every week, the whole family was going thru transition 52 times a year! By going to every 2 weeks, this dropped to 26 transition times a year. This was a HUGE improvement. But we knew that with each transition, we needed about 3 days of getting used to it all.
The next question I want to address actually came from several of you. It has to do with "how to connect and bond" with your stepchildren. First is Carly's answer then mine.
C: I would suggest expressing an interest to their mother that you would like to get to know the children better. It may be a hard thing because she may feel as if you are trying to take her place...but assure her that you are not, and that you are simply another person in her children's life who would like to know them and encourage them. I know that my mom and steppie talked a lot in the past, both expressing concerns. I feel as if this is an essential part in the success of a step parent...just so both mom and step-mom can discuss how they are feeling. This could in turn prevent ill will wished on either mom or step-mom. I would also suggest letting the children know that you want to know them better...make sure you do not divulge any ill will towards their mother as they may turn that in to resentment towards you. Re-assure the children that you are not taking the place of their mother, and make sure that your actions back up those words. Tell them you simply want to know who they are and encourage them along the way in their life. Something that my steppie and I ask each other is..."how is your heart." Not meaning literally how is your heart, but how are you really doing. Make sure that you use your judgement in talking about how you are really doing...as they are still children. Also, maybe sending them a little card or a little note just to say Hi will help as well. Let them know who you are as well, faults and all.
S: Wow....that was really good, Carly. Isn't she amazing? But, I'd like to say something here as well. One thing I started not too long ago with my son (the girls were gone by that time) is something we termed as "Moso Day". It actually stands for the first 2 letters of Mom and the first 2 letters of Son...we came up with it together. When I started traveling alot with my speaking and as he grew older, I knew we needed to find a way to connect on a deeper level on a regular basis. Moso Day is a time we take, usually right after school, and spend it alone, just the 2 of us. Usually we go to our favorite little restaurant and sit outside and share an appetizer and just talk. Sometimes we go to Starbucks. But basically we talk about 2 things. I ask him who his top 5 favorite friends are that week, both male and female. He knows it's not an option to not tell me. He has to tell me. We made that a rule in the beginning. This way I get to keep a pulse on who he's hanging out with in his teenage life and he gets to open up about other stuff that's going on. This has been one of the most bonding times of our lives together. I would suggest you find time to do this with each of your children AND stepchildren. It will truly change your lives. Even if you don't think they want to spend time with you, remember, they are KIDS and they do. They WANT you to take an interest in them and take time for them. Ask them the big question, "How's your heart?" and really mean it. YOU must make a commitment to spend time with them...and don't break the date. Ever. You might sit silently for the first several Moso's or Moda's, but just keep doing it. They'll open up soon. And it's never too early OR late to start. I wish I had started this with the girls when they still lived at home.
Wishing all of you blessings today.....hugs! Shari www.ShariBraendel.com
The first question was from Margaret about siblings. She asked if there were any issues there and this is what Carly had to say:
C: I think my situation was a little different as I am a triplet and we were 10 years older than our step-brother, Luke. When my dad and steppie first got married it was weird because Luke was only 2 (almost 3), and we were 12. So of course he was spoiled...but he was also mothered big time by all of us. It hasn't been until recently that I feel as if Luke and I have really gotten to where a sibling relationship should be because of our age difference. He is my little brother, so of course we had the bickering and annoyances but now that he is older (13) it is cool to see how I influenced him and how he has some of the same passions as me so it is fun to speak words of encouragement and challenge into his life.
S: I'd like to add to that as well. (Shari) The hardest part about the sibling thing was that we shared custody with the girls' mom. So every 2 weeks (on Friday at dinner) was transition time. That was hard. It was hard for the girls coming from one set of rules to another and it was hard on Luke having the girls come and have his little world of "only child" be completely disrupted. It was hard on all of us. We all knew that for about 3 days, each of us, including Dave and me would be in transition. It was hard. Did I say it was hard? The kids fought alot, blamed each other on things, picked at each other, all just to get their biological parent to come to the rescue. Hard stuff. I don't miss that. Neither do they. We did see a christian family counselor for this and at the time we had custody one week on, one week off. This very wise counselor recommended we change it to every 2 weeks (which we did) because by changing every week, the whole family was going thru transition 52 times a year! By going to every 2 weeks, this dropped to 26 transition times a year. This was a HUGE improvement. But we knew that with each transition, we needed about 3 days of getting used to it all.
The next question I want to address actually came from several of you. It has to do with "how to connect and bond" with your stepchildren. First is Carly's answer then mine.
C: I would suggest expressing an interest to their mother that you would like to get to know the children better. It may be a hard thing because she may feel as if you are trying to take her place...but assure her that you are not, and that you are simply another person in her children's life who would like to know them and encourage them. I know that my mom and steppie talked a lot in the past, both expressing concerns. I feel as if this is an essential part in the success of a step parent...just so both mom and step-mom can discuss how they are feeling. This could in turn prevent ill will wished on either mom or step-mom. I would also suggest letting the children know that you want to know them better...make sure you do not divulge any ill will towards their mother as they may turn that in to resentment towards you. Re-assure the children that you are not taking the place of their mother, and make sure that your actions back up those words. Tell them you simply want to know who they are and encourage them along the way in their life. Something that my steppie and I ask each other is..."how is your heart." Not meaning literally how is your heart, but how are you really doing. Make sure that you use your judgement in talking about how you are really doing...as they are still children. Also, maybe sending them a little card or a little note just to say Hi will help as well. Let them know who you are as well, faults and all.
S: Wow....that was really good, Carly. Isn't she amazing? But, I'd like to say something here as well. One thing I started not too long ago with my son (the girls were gone by that time) is something we termed as "Moso Day". It actually stands for the first 2 letters of Mom and the first 2 letters of Son...we came up with it together. When I started traveling alot with my speaking and as he grew older, I knew we needed to find a way to connect on a deeper level on a regular basis. Moso Day is a time we take, usually right after school, and spend it alone, just the 2 of us. Usually we go to our favorite little restaurant and sit outside and share an appetizer and just talk. Sometimes we go to Starbucks. But basically we talk about 2 things. I ask him who his top 5 favorite friends are that week, both male and female. He knows it's not an option to not tell me. He has to tell me. We made that a rule in the beginning. This way I get to keep a pulse on who he's hanging out with in his teenage life and he gets to open up about other stuff that's going on. This has been one of the most bonding times of our lives together. I would suggest you find time to do this with each of your children AND stepchildren. It will truly change your lives. Even if you don't think they want to spend time with you, remember, they are KIDS and they do. They WANT you to take an interest in them and take time for them. Ask them the big question, "How's your heart?" and really mean it. YOU must make a commitment to spend time with them...and don't break the date. Ever. You might sit silently for the first several Moso's or Moda's, but just keep doing it. They'll open up soon. And it's never too early OR late to start. I wish I had started this with the girls when they still lived at home.
Wishing all of you blessings today.....hugs! Shari www.ShariBraendel.com
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Interview with a STEPPIE!
Welcome! I have a devotional running today (Tuesday) at Proverbs 31 about step parenting so in light of that I thought I’d interview my stepdaughter to give you some insight on being a stepchild and what that means.
Step parenting is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it has also given me loads of joy!
I hope you are blessed by this. Here goes:
S: Good morning, Carly! Can you tell our readers a little about yourself…your age, what you do, your hobbies, your passions?
C: Good morning, Steppie :) and good morning to all of the readers. I am a triplet 23 years old, and am incredibly blessed with my two amazing sisters. I have an incredible family...my mom, my steppie, my daddy, my two sisters and my little 13 year old step brother (who is not little at all since he is 6'3" now). I graduated from Montreat College with a B.A. in Music Business, and a minor in art. I currently work as the college bookstore manager at Montreat College, and love it! I stay pretty busy as of late but when I get a chance I love creating anything, whether it be a new painting, playing guitar, or writing. God has blessed me with so many different passions. I am most passionate about music and art. I love the idea of creating something out of a mere idea. I am also an avid reader and am truly amazed by the power of words. I love sitting and talking to people for hours asking tough questions and challenging each other in love.
S: As a “steppie”, what is the very best advice you would give to someone who is a new stepparent?
C: There are so many little pieces of advice I could give to a new step parent, but there are two main things I would say. The first, is to stay strong and know that you are going to fight some battles in the beginning as the children may feel as if you are trying to take the place of their mother (or father). I will be honest… Shari and I had our share of arguments in the beginning of their marriage as it was a new and different situation. Children are not used to a new parent figure and know that it will take some time for them to get used to you. The second is to rely on God with this, there is a reason that you are now a stepparent and it is just like life...you are going to have your share of difficulties, but there are going to be so many moments of joy and redemption. Go to God when you don't think you can handle another explanation that you are not taking the place of their mother. Go to God when you begin doubting your effectiveness as a new stepparent. I also would advise talking with your spouse about issues you are dealing with in your new role as a stepparent. It can be a very scary thing I am sure, and your husband should be along side of you supporting you and encouraging you in this!
S: What would you tell someone who has been a stepparent for a while now, but doesn’t have a very good relationship with their stepchild?
C: I guess I would say to take a step back and re-evaluate your role in the child’s life. First and foremost, remember that the stepchild is simply that… a child. I will always be a stepchild to Shari, and she will always be my stepmother. However, our relationship has evolved so much over the years. I look up to her as a mentor and welcome her advice and wisdom as I do with my mother. I think that if your stepchild is older, sit down and talk with them. Ask them how they are feeling and if there is something that they would like changed and what they expect in your relationship. Listen to them and do not get offended with what they tell you...it may hurt your feelings, but do not become defensive to this. I also think that you should tell them how you are feeling and what you expect in your relationship. I would say to use some judgement in this and make sure that you are not blaming them for anything and not offending them.
S: Carly, while you were living at home with us (and your 2 sisters), we shared custody with your mom. You lived with us for 2 weeks, then you all went to live with her for 2 weeks. We had houses less than one mile from each other (planned it that way) so you could all be on the same bus route for school and other activities. Do you think this was best or would you have liked it some other way? (Dave and I married when the girls were 12 years old, my son Luke was almost 3.)
C: I really do think that this was best for our family. It may not be best for all families...but it provided stability for us as we did not have to change schools or anything. I know that it did get tough at times, because my sisters and I felt as if we were unsettled at times as we were constantly moving back and forth...which became too much for me and I decided to stay with my dad and steppie the majority of the time. I still saw my mother and spent time with her, but I slept in the same place. I think the most important thing with this is to discuss what is best for your family.
S: Let’s talk about church and your relationship with God. I remember when you and your sisters were in 9th grade we changed churches because we felt you needed a stronger youth group. Yet, you didn’t want to go (none of you did) and I drove you there and all three of you cried and screamed at me the whole way there! You threatened me with hatred, and said you were never going to speak to me again! Tell me about that as you remember it and how that turned out. Were your dad and I right to force you to go?
C: Haha!! I remember that day...man was I mad at you! My sisters and I refused to go to the youth group...we were scared, and we didn't know anyone there. I didn't understand why you wanted me to go there so bad if I really didn't want to. I remember screaming and crying all the way to the church...and saying that I hated you and never wanted to speak to you again (sorry about that haha). You walked us in and found a youth leader...and asked that person to kind of take us under their wing. When you left I was still so mad and swore I was not going to have any fun at all! Boy was I wrong...I had a blast! I made new friends that night, and could not wait to go back! I look back on that and laugh about it, because I can't believe that I didn't want to go. I never really knew a lot about God before that, even though I went to church with my mom on Sundays...I learned so much and that began my journey of accepting Jesus into my life. I don't know if you were right to force me to go...but I do thank you for it. I know that if you gave me the option to go or not I would have said no, and you knew that...so you did force us to go. I think you used your best judgement and you were right in that.
S: Tell the readers about your relationship with God as it is now.
C: Well...this may be a little long. Even though I started going to church in the 9th grade, I did not become a Christian until the summer before college. I was stubborn and honestly I wanted all the answers before I made a life long decision. I went to a private Christian college, Montreat College in the beautiful mountains of NC. In college is where I really experienced God...I was blessed with such a strong Christian community and incredible professors who integrated faith in all aspects of teaching. I met incredible friends who are more brothers and sisters in Christ than anything. They challenged my faith and my beliefs and helped me understand why I believe what I believe. Shari has also played a very key role in my spiritual journey. She has been a spiritual mentor to me, and has shown me what a woman of God is. I love Jesus with all of my heart and know that I am His child and nothing less. I believe in authentic faith where I openly wrestle and question different aspects of Christianity. God has blessed me with so many things in my life...and I would not change any aspect of my journey that God is leading me on. I am challenged everyday to share God’s grace and love with others. I am passionate about challenging others in love and speaking the Ultimate Truth of God’s Word into their lives. I believe that I stumble towards faith, in hopes of one day walking alongside God.
S: If we could go back in time, what would you change about the way you were raised?
C: You know what...I don't think I would change anything about the way I was raised. Sure there were things in my childhood that I didn't like...but honestly it made me who I am today. I love that I have a Steppie, and a mother... and I love my daddy! I am still a daddy’s girl, but I am also a steppie's girl haha!
S: Carly, please end our time by saying anything else you’d like to about being a steppie…please encourage our readers and give them hope!
C: I want to say thank you, because I know that being a steppie can be a pretty thankless job. Know that you are making a difference in your stepchild's life and it is up to YOU as to what kind of difference you make. I believe that you are a very special woman in taking on the role of a steppie, and even though you will fight battles and probably shed some tears... remember that you are in this child's life for a reason. God has chosen you to be in their life this very instant and you are now a part of their story and journey, as they are a part of yours. Thank you Shari for all you have done in my life! I love you and miss you, come visit soon! :)
S: Thank you so much, special girl….you know how much I love you and am blessed to have you in my life! Readers, if you have any questions you’d like to ask Carly, she has agreed to answer any of those this week as you ask them. So, leave a comment or question for her and she will answer them! I wish I had known a wise girl to ask questions to when I first became a step parent, maybe I wouldn’t have made so many mistakes….so ask away!
Beautiful Blessings, my friends! Shari http://www.sharibraendel.com/
Step parenting is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it has also given me loads of joy!
I hope you are blessed by this. Here goes:
S: Good morning, Carly! Can you tell our readers a little about yourself…your age, what you do, your hobbies, your passions?
C: Good morning, Steppie :) and good morning to all of the readers. I am a triplet 23 years old, and am incredibly blessed with my two amazing sisters. I have an incredible family...my mom, my steppie, my daddy, my two sisters and my little 13 year old step brother (who is not little at all since he is 6'3" now). I graduated from Montreat College with a B.A. in Music Business, and a minor in art. I currently work as the college bookstore manager at Montreat College, and love it! I stay pretty busy as of late but when I get a chance I love creating anything, whether it be a new painting, playing guitar, or writing. God has blessed me with so many different passions. I am most passionate about music and art. I love the idea of creating something out of a mere idea. I am also an avid reader and am truly amazed by the power of words. I love sitting and talking to people for hours asking tough questions and challenging each other in love.
S: As a “steppie”, what is the very best advice you would give to someone who is a new stepparent?
C: There are so many little pieces of advice I could give to a new step parent, but there are two main things I would say. The first, is to stay strong and know that you are going to fight some battles in the beginning as the children may feel as if you are trying to take the place of their mother (or father). I will be honest… Shari and I had our share of arguments in the beginning of their marriage as it was a new and different situation. Children are not used to a new parent figure and know that it will take some time for them to get used to you. The second is to rely on God with this, there is a reason that you are now a stepparent and it is just like life...you are going to have your share of difficulties, but there are going to be so many moments of joy and redemption. Go to God when you don't think you can handle another explanation that you are not taking the place of their mother. Go to God when you begin doubting your effectiveness as a new stepparent. I also would advise talking with your spouse about issues you are dealing with in your new role as a stepparent. It can be a very scary thing I am sure, and your husband should be along side of you supporting you and encouraging you in this!
S: What would you tell someone who has been a stepparent for a while now, but doesn’t have a very good relationship with their stepchild?
C: I guess I would say to take a step back and re-evaluate your role in the child’s life. First and foremost, remember that the stepchild is simply that… a child. I will always be a stepchild to Shari, and she will always be my stepmother. However, our relationship has evolved so much over the years. I look up to her as a mentor and welcome her advice and wisdom as I do with my mother. I think that if your stepchild is older, sit down and talk with them. Ask them how they are feeling and if there is something that they would like changed and what they expect in your relationship. Listen to them and do not get offended with what they tell you...it may hurt your feelings, but do not become defensive to this. I also think that you should tell them how you are feeling and what you expect in your relationship. I would say to use some judgement in this and make sure that you are not blaming them for anything and not offending them.
S: Carly, while you were living at home with us (and your 2 sisters), we shared custody with your mom. You lived with us for 2 weeks, then you all went to live with her for 2 weeks. We had houses less than one mile from each other (planned it that way) so you could all be on the same bus route for school and other activities. Do you think this was best or would you have liked it some other way? (Dave and I married when the girls were 12 years old, my son Luke was almost 3.)
C: I really do think that this was best for our family. It may not be best for all families...but it provided stability for us as we did not have to change schools or anything. I know that it did get tough at times, because my sisters and I felt as if we were unsettled at times as we were constantly moving back and forth...which became too much for me and I decided to stay with my dad and steppie the majority of the time. I still saw my mother and spent time with her, but I slept in the same place. I think the most important thing with this is to discuss what is best for your family.
S: Let’s talk about church and your relationship with God. I remember when you and your sisters were in 9th grade we changed churches because we felt you needed a stronger youth group. Yet, you didn’t want to go (none of you did) and I drove you there and all three of you cried and screamed at me the whole way there! You threatened me with hatred, and said you were never going to speak to me again! Tell me about that as you remember it and how that turned out. Were your dad and I right to force you to go?
C: Haha!! I remember that day...man was I mad at you! My sisters and I refused to go to the youth group...we were scared, and we didn't know anyone there. I didn't understand why you wanted me to go there so bad if I really didn't want to. I remember screaming and crying all the way to the church...and saying that I hated you and never wanted to speak to you again (sorry about that haha). You walked us in and found a youth leader...and asked that person to kind of take us under their wing. When you left I was still so mad and swore I was not going to have any fun at all! Boy was I wrong...I had a blast! I made new friends that night, and could not wait to go back! I look back on that and laugh about it, because I can't believe that I didn't want to go. I never really knew a lot about God before that, even though I went to church with my mom on Sundays...I learned so much and that began my journey of accepting Jesus into my life. I don't know if you were right to force me to go...but I do thank you for it. I know that if you gave me the option to go or not I would have said no, and you knew that...so you did force us to go. I think you used your best judgement and you were right in that.
S: Tell the readers about your relationship with God as it is now.
C: Well...this may be a little long. Even though I started going to church in the 9th grade, I did not become a Christian until the summer before college. I was stubborn and honestly I wanted all the answers before I made a life long decision. I went to a private Christian college, Montreat College in the beautiful mountains of NC. In college is where I really experienced God...I was blessed with such a strong Christian community and incredible professors who integrated faith in all aspects of teaching. I met incredible friends who are more brothers and sisters in Christ than anything. They challenged my faith and my beliefs and helped me understand why I believe what I believe. Shari has also played a very key role in my spiritual journey. She has been a spiritual mentor to me, and has shown me what a woman of God is. I love Jesus with all of my heart and know that I am His child and nothing less. I believe in authentic faith where I openly wrestle and question different aspects of Christianity. God has blessed me with so many things in my life...and I would not change any aspect of my journey that God is leading me on. I am challenged everyday to share God’s grace and love with others. I am passionate about challenging others in love and speaking the Ultimate Truth of God’s Word into their lives. I believe that I stumble towards faith, in hopes of one day walking alongside God.
S: If we could go back in time, what would you change about the way you were raised?
C: You know what...I don't think I would change anything about the way I was raised. Sure there were things in my childhood that I didn't like...but honestly it made me who I am today. I love that I have a Steppie, and a mother... and I love my daddy! I am still a daddy’s girl, but I am also a steppie's girl haha!
S: Carly, please end our time by saying anything else you’d like to about being a steppie…please encourage our readers and give them hope!
C: I want to say thank you, because I know that being a steppie can be a pretty thankless job. Know that you are making a difference in your stepchild's life and it is up to YOU as to what kind of difference you make. I believe that you are a very special woman in taking on the role of a steppie, and even though you will fight battles and probably shed some tears... remember that you are in this child's life for a reason. God has chosen you to be in their life this very instant and you are now a part of their story and journey, as they are a part of yours. Thank you Shari for all you have done in my life! I love you and miss you, come visit soon! :)
S: Thank you so much, special girl….you know how much I love you and am blessed to have you in my life! Readers, if you have any questions you’d like to ask Carly, she has agreed to answer any of those this week as you ask them. So, leave a comment or question for her and she will answer them! I wish I had known a wise girl to ask questions to when I first became a step parent, maybe I wouldn’t have made so many mistakes….so ask away!
Beautiful Blessings, my friends! Shari http://www.sharibraendel.com/
Friday, May 9, 2008
Interview with a Hair Stylist!
Hello all! I'm sorry I couldn't get this up earlier but I've been in airports all morning and now just settled into my host home in Florida....oh, it's beautiful! Patti and I are sitting on the patio overlooking an awesome lake with the wind blowing our hair....speaking of which....I ‘m so excited to bring our special guest to you today. (This interview was done on the plane before I posted as I had no internet.) Her name is Patti Curlee (how appropriate is that name for a hairstylist! And her husband is bald!) She is a fabulous cosmetologist…for those of you that don’t know what that means, it means she knows how to do hair! Ha!!! (And by the way, she is my beautiful assistant who travels with me to most of my events….and actually, we are on an airplane right now headed for St. Pete, Florida for 3 speaking engagements! So here we go!
S: Patti, we’ve got many readers who are really concerned with this whole idea of hair! I told them if they haven’t had a compliment on their hair in the last 2 weeks, it’s time for a change…what do you think?
P: YES! That’s right, it’s time for a change…it’s time to go to your stylist and sit quietly!
S: Patti, some of my readers told me they’ve tried that, and actually have told their stylist to do what they wish, but the stylist says NO….what should they do?
P: Go to a new stylist! Or, give your stylist one more chance and take some pics of styles you like and guide her. (Note from Shari, if you don’t know how to guide her, then try someone completely new.)
P: Express some guidance and let your stylist fine tune it. Tell them how short you’re willing to go, your lifestyle, etc.
S: Where should they find these pictures?
P: There are excellent hair styling magazines at drug stores, WalMart, any magazine rack. They have cuts for long hair, short hair and everything in between. They are seasonal so they have the latest celebrity looks and trends.
S: Patti, what would you suggest for someone with curly hair who has no idea what to do with her hair?
P: First you need to love what you have! And if it’s means curly hair, then look in the mirror today and say, “I love this hair!”. Usually curly hair needs layers and texture so it’s not so full, depending on the amount of curl and hair you have. There are also flat irons or 1.5 inch barrel curling irons you can use when you’re styling your hair to control it. If you’d like to go more permanent, you can opt to go for a permanent straightener that
your stylist can advise you on. Depending on the amount of curl, though, it may just help you relax it to help you control the curl. These “permanent” straighteners will last about 3-6 months depending on your individual hair.
S: I think for the most part, my readers want to look great and stylish, but they want to do so in very little time…we’re busy, you know! Any suggestions? Sans ponytail?!
P:L) (Note from Shari…I kid you not, she just looked at me with this blank, sad, turned down lipped face….hmmm….wonder what that means!) It is really not possible. I could give you the best hair cut and color and if you don’t spend some time on it, you’re not gonna look put together.
S: How much time?
P: With the right styling products and tools (and a great cut), you should be able to do it in 10 minutes. If you don’t have 10 minutes, then get up a little earlier….(S: or don’t eat breakfast! Just kidding!) You have to put effort into yourself.
S: New subject. How old is too old for long hair?
P: I don’t think there is an age. I do believe that you will know. One day you will look in the mirror and you’ll see frumpy. Also, remember the compliment deal…no compliments, time for a change. I do think it you are going to keep it longer as you age, make sure you keep some layers in it around your face to give you a style instead of it just hanging.
S: I like to tell women to do a real gut check every year on their birthday….ask yourself, “does this REALLY flatter me?”
S: Bangs or no bangs?
P: I can’t wear bangs cause my forehead’s an inch long! Shari, you on the otherhand….(thanks, Patti!) heheh….It really does depend on your face shape and size of your forehead. Bangs are definitely stylish now so you could start with a long bang that you could still tuck behind your ear and wear to the side. Try it, see how you like it! You need to have the guts to try something new and different.
S: I know I’ve discussed this on my blog this week but I really want to ask you this for your opinion. How do we get a haircut and color without breaking the bank?
P: Go to a small town. If you live in a bigger city, your prices are going to be more. Take the time to drive to a small town near you (even an hour or more away) and find women with sharp haircuts. Ask them who does their hair and how much it costs. Women really don’t mind sharing this bit of info and actually they feel complimented when you ask them. So don’t be shy. If you have to travel every six weeks or so on a Saturday or weekday (if your kids are in school) go for it! But the prices in a small town will be about half the price.
S: Is there a manageable style for a mom of 2 young ones that is easy to maintain that looks cute?
P: Most short styles are manageable with the right products and some training from your stylist. Have her show you how to style it before you leave the salon. This is a broad question because I can't actually see the person....go find that good stylist.
S: Would you recommend any particular products or shampoo?
P: I recommend a different product for every client because everyone's hair texture, need and style is unique. Therefore, you really have to have confidence in your stylist and allow her to recommend the right products and shampoo for you. Trust her judgement. That's the reason some women can't style their hair at home like the way their stylist did because they don't ask for help. You must trust and ASK! It's also fun to have the same stylist you can trust because you get to know each other and can be real! Stick with your new stylist at least 3 haircuts because you can't "jive" after just one...give her a chance to get to know your hair.
One final note from Patti: Make sure you keep yourself maintained. To keep yourself up, you have to go on a regular basis. Don’t think you can go every 3 months and expect to like your hair in between time. 6-8 weeks is the max. 4-6 weeks is the recommended time. Also, take care of your stylist by leaving her a tip. 15-20% is recommended.
S: Thank you Patti for your time today! You have helped us a lot and I can’t wait to hear the results from my readers! And hey, if you readers are ever in Charlotte, Patti cuts and colors hair….and I’ll bet she’d give you a really good price if you tell her I told you to! Hehehe! Right Patti?
P: You bet!
Beautiful Blessings, Shari http://www.sharibraendel.com/
S: Patti, we’ve got many readers who are really concerned with this whole idea of hair! I told them if they haven’t had a compliment on their hair in the last 2 weeks, it’s time for a change…what do you think?
P: YES! That’s right, it’s time for a change…it’s time to go to your stylist and sit quietly!
S: Patti, some of my readers told me they’ve tried that, and actually have told their stylist to do what they wish, but the stylist says NO….what should they do?
P: Go to a new stylist! Or, give your stylist one more chance and take some pics of styles you like and guide her. (Note from Shari, if you don’t know how to guide her, then try someone completely new.)
P: Express some guidance and let your stylist fine tune it. Tell them how short you’re willing to go, your lifestyle, etc.
S: Where should they find these pictures?
P: There are excellent hair styling magazines at drug stores, WalMart, any magazine rack. They have cuts for long hair, short hair and everything in between. They are seasonal so they have the latest celebrity looks and trends.
S: Patti, what would you suggest for someone with curly hair who has no idea what to do with her hair?
P: First you need to love what you have! And if it’s means curly hair, then look in the mirror today and say, “I love this hair!”. Usually curly hair needs layers and texture so it’s not so full, depending on the amount of curl and hair you have. There are also flat irons or 1.5 inch barrel curling irons you can use when you’re styling your hair to control it. If you’d like to go more permanent, you can opt to go for a permanent straightener that
your stylist can advise you on. Depending on the amount of curl, though, it may just help you relax it to help you control the curl. These “permanent” straighteners will last about 3-6 months depending on your individual hair.
S: I think for the most part, my readers want to look great and stylish, but they want to do so in very little time…we’re busy, you know! Any suggestions? Sans ponytail?!
P:L) (Note from Shari…I kid you not, she just looked at me with this blank, sad, turned down lipped face….hmmm….wonder what that means!) It is really not possible. I could give you the best hair cut and color and if you don’t spend some time on it, you’re not gonna look put together.
S: How much time?
P: With the right styling products and tools (and a great cut), you should be able to do it in 10 minutes. If you don’t have 10 minutes, then get up a little earlier….(S: or don’t eat breakfast! Just kidding!) You have to put effort into yourself.
S: New subject. How old is too old for long hair?
P: I don’t think there is an age. I do believe that you will know. One day you will look in the mirror and you’ll see frumpy. Also, remember the compliment deal…no compliments, time for a change. I do think it you are going to keep it longer as you age, make sure you keep some layers in it around your face to give you a style instead of it just hanging.
S: I like to tell women to do a real gut check every year on their birthday….ask yourself, “does this REALLY flatter me?”
S: Bangs or no bangs?
P: I can’t wear bangs cause my forehead’s an inch long! Shari, you on the otherhand….(thanks, Patti!) heheh….It really does depend on your face shape and size of your forehead. Bangs are definitely stylish now so you could start with a long bang that you could still tuck behind your ear and wear to the side. Try it, see how you like it! You need to have the guts to try something new and different.
S: I know I’ve discussed this on my blog this week but I really want to ask you this for your opinion. How do we get a haircut and color without breaking the bank?
P: Go to a small town. If you live in a bigger city, your prices are going to be more. Take the time to drive to a small town near you (even an hour or more away) and find women with sharp haircuts. Ask them who does their hair and how much it costs. Women really don’t mind sharing this bit of info and actually they feel complimented when you ask them. So don’t be shy. If you have to travel every six weeks or so on a Saturday or weekday (if your kids are in school) go for it! But the prices in a small town will be about half the price.
S: Is there a manageable style for a mom of 2 young ones that is easy to maintain that looks cute?
P: Most short styles are manageable with the right products and some training from your stylist. Have her show you how to style it before you leave the salon. This is a broad question because I can't actually see the person....go find that good stylist.
S: Would you recommend any particular products or shampoo?
P: I recommend a different product for every client because everyone's hair texture, need and style is unique. Therefore, you really have to have confidence in your stylist and allow her to recommend the right products and shampoo for you. Trust her judgement. That's the reason some women can't style their hair at home like the way their stylist did because they don't ask for help. You must trust and ASK! It's also fun to have the same stylist you can trust because you get to know each other and can be real! Stick with your new stylist at least 3 haircuts because you can't "jive" after just one...give her a chance to get to know your hair.
One final note from Patti: Make sure you keep yourself maintained. To keep yourself up, you have to go on a regular basis. Don’t think you can go every 3 months and expect to like your hair in between time. 6-8 weeks is the max. 4-6 weeks is the recommended time. Also, take care of your stylist by leaving her a tip. 15-20% is recommended.
S: Thank you Patti for your time today! You have helped us a lot and I can’t wait to hear the results from my readers! And hey, if you readers are ever in Charlotte, Patti cuts and colors hair….and I’ll bet she’d give you a really good price if you tell her I told you to! Hehehe! Right Patti?
P: You bet!
Beautiful Blessings, Shari http://www.sharibraendel.com/
Thursday, May 8, 2008
Hair and Stuff!
This is gonna be short today. I have 2 writing deadlines today and I've got to get them done before I head to St. Petersburg, Florida tomorrow to speak at three different churches this weekend for their Mother/Daughter events. I'm writing an article on jeans and tops for Brio magazine for the Sept. issue (if your not familiar with the mag, it is for Christian teen girls!) and also have a deadline for my new book proposal. I'll tell you about that when I get the okay!
But for now, I just have this to say: I am very concerned for those of you who are going to a hairstylist who gets upset if you tell them to do what they think is best for you. That would be like me taking a client on a personal shopping trip and telling them to pick out their own clothes. There. I said it. Enough. Get my drift? Seriously now. Why would you go back to someone like that? Cancel your appointments. Find someone new...today.
On that note, tomorrow, for my final segment on hair, I am going to interview a hair stylist with questions you've posted along the way and some of my own. If you have questions for her, please ask them today. I can't wait to see what she has to say!
For now, happy Thursday! My husband is golfing today and I'm home alone!!!!!!! Don't you just love days like that sometimes? Here's the thing, I am NEVER home alone. Ever. So, it's rather....ah....wonderful! And he really needed a break! love ya, Shari
But for now, I just have this to say: I am very concerned for those of you who are going to a hairstylist who gets upset if you tell them to do what they think is best for you. That would be like me taking a client on a personal shopping trip and telling them to pick out their own clothes. There. I said it. Enough. Get my drift? Seriously now. Why would you go back to someone like that? Cancel your appointments. Find someone new...today.
On that note, tomorrow, for my final segment on hair, I am going to interview a hair stylist with questions you've posted along the way and some of my own. If you have questions for her, please ask them today. I can't wait to see what she has to say!
For now, happy Thursday! My husband is golfing today and I'm home alone!!!!!!! Don't you just love days like that sometimes? Here's the thing, I am NEVER home alone. Ever. So, it's rather....ah....wonderful! And he really needed a break! love ya, Shari
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
Whew! You girls are good...and very observant. Thank you to those of you who did a great job on your homework...A for you!
It seems the women you picked out had only one thing in common. They looked sharp. Okay, that may seem rather silly to say, since I told you to pick out "sharp" women, but think about it. "Sharp" can mean all kinds of things. It can mean curly, angled, bob, angled bob, straight with layers, highlights, lowlights, sleek, short, long, red, blonde, brunette, silver. So I looked up the defintion of "sharp" on dictionary.com and one of the definitions was "very stylish". Do you realize that only one of you picked out someone with a ponytail, and even she had it hanging lower on her neck and was dressed well. You also didn't choose anyone whose hair was just long and hanging there. Each of you tended to choose someone who was put-together. She didn't need to be dressed up, however, you picked out women who were coordinated...or so it seemed.
My friend Zoe commented about what I told her awhile ago. That is: IF YOU HAVEN'T RECEIVED A COMPLIMENT ON YOUR HAIR IN THE LAST 2 WEEKS, IT'S TIME FOR A CHANGE. It's time for an appointment....probably with someone different than your usual hairstylist. It's time to sit down in someone's chair and let HER or HIM decide what is best for you. Yes, you can give her/him a few tips, like, "I prefer bangs, or I prefer a few blonde highlights, etc." But leave it at that. If I were a hairdresser, and I'm not, but if I were, the one comment I would HATE to hear from someone is this, "I don't care what you do, just make sure it's long enough so I can wear it in a pony tail." AGH!. WHY? Why do you want to wear it in a pony tail if it is the most unflattering hair style in the world....yes the WORLD? I remember once my hairstylist ,Michael, in Miami told me if I ever told him I wanted to wear my hair in a ponytail I wasn't allowed to go back to him! Now here's the next thing. That compliment I told you about receiving (or not!) in the past 2 weeks MUST come from someone other than a husband, child or best friend (unless she is really stylish.) But for the most part, compliments to determine if your hair is sharp or not, don't count when it comes from a family member. Just trust me on that. (Think back to Hair: Part 1, when 10 year old complimented mother.) So girls, it's time to go out in the world, find someone whose hair you really like, that looks sharp and ASK HER WHO CUTS HER HAIR. Get the number, and make an appointment.
For those of you who don't want to break the bank, go to the mall, get a coffee, take a book, and go sit out in front of one of those Hair Cuttery's, (you know, the inexpensive hair cut shops). Watch. Wait. See if you see women exiting that have cute haircuts. Find out which one of the hairdressers cut her hair. OR see which hairdresser has nice hair...sharp, if you will. She most likely doesn't cut her own hair (some do, but most don't). Ask her who does it. And make an appointment with him or her. They most likely work in the same salon.
Here are few options for you if you want to have sharp hair on a budget:
1. Check out the JCPenney salon.
2. A local beauty school.
3. Trade services with someone. Maybe you have something to offer that a hairstylist would like. I haven't paid for cut or color in probably 20 years. (Do they need a blog site, website,note cards, makeup, child care, housecleaning?)
4. A mom who has her license but doesn't work in a salon....she works out of her house, in the kitchen, but is half the price! Start asking around! I'll bet there's someone in your play group or bible study who would do just that. She just feels strange doing it in her kitchen but tell her you really don't mind....or have her come to your house.
Girls, there are ways to get your hair done without breaking the bank. Now go get dressed (cause if I remember right, all the sharp haired girls had a cute outfit on!) and get out in the world. No ponytails, make an appointment, sit down and let the hairstylist tell you what would look good on you. The reason most women don't like their hair is that they tell the hairdresser what to do.....what is that all about?!
Happy Day! And if you're visiting my blog for the first time from Crossroads Church, First Baptist of China Grove, or Front Street Baptist, HELLO! Welcome! It was fun being with all of you this past weekend and last night!
Beautiful Blessings, Shari
It seems the women you picked out had only one thing in common. They looked sharp. Okay, that may seem rather silly to say, since I told you to pick out "sharp" women, but think about it. "Sharp" can mean all kinds of things. It can mean curly, angled, bob, angled bob, straight with layers, highlights, lowlights, sleek, short, long, red, blonde, brunette, silver. So I looked up the defintion of "sharp" on dictionary.com and one of the definitions was "very stylish". Do you realize that only one of you picked out someone with a ponytail, and even she had it hanging lower on her neck and was dressed well. You also didn't choose anyone whose hair was just long and hanging there. Each of you tended to choose someone who was put-together. She didn't need to be dressed up, however, you picked out women who were coordinated...or so it seemed.
My friend Zoe commented about what I told her awhile ago. That is: IF YOU HAVEN'T RECEIVED A COMPLIMENT ON YOUR HAIR IN THE LAST 2 WEEKS, IT'S TIME FOR A CHANGE. It's time for an appointment....probably with someone different than your usual hairstylist. It's time to sit down in someone's chair and let HER or HIM decide what is best for you. Yes, you can give her/him a few tips, like, "I prefer bangs, or I prefer a few blonde highlights, etc." But leave it at that. If I were a hairdresser, and I'm not, but if I were, the one comment I would HATE to hear from someone is this, "I don't care what you do, just make sure it's long enough so I can wear it in a pony tail." AGH!. WHY? Why do you want to wear it in a pony tail if it is the most unflattering hair style in the world....yes the WORLD? I remember once my hairstylist ,Michael, in Miami told me if I ever told him I wanted to wear my hair in a ponytail I wasn't allowed to go back to him! Now here's the next thing. That compliment I told you about receiving (or not!) in the past 2 weeks MUST come from someone other than a husband, child or best friend (unless she is really stylish.) But for the most part, compliments to determine if your hair is sharp or not, don't count when it comes from a family member. Just trust me on that. (Think back to Hair: Part 1, when 10 year old complimented mother.) So girls, it's time to go out in the world, find someone whose hair you really like, that looks sharp and ASK HER WHO CUTS HER HAIR. Get the number, and make an appointment.
For those of you who don't want to break the bank, go to the mall, get a coffee, take a book, and go sit out in front of one of those Hair Cuttery's, (you know, the inexpensive hair cut shops). Watch. Wait. See if you see women exiting that have cute haircuts. Find out which one of the hairdressers cut her hair. OR see which hairdresser has nice hair...sharp, if you will. She most likely doesn't cut her own hair (some do, but most don't). Ask her who does it. And make an appointment with him or her. They most likely work in the same salon.
Here are few options for you if you want to have sharp hair on a budget:
1. Check out the JCPenney salon.
2. A local beauty school.
3. Trade services with someone. Maybe you have something to offer that a hairstylist would like. I haven't paid for cut or color in probably 20 years. (Do they need a blog site, website,note cards, makeup, child care, housecleaning?)
4. A mom who has her license but doesn't work in a salon....she works out of her house, in the kitchen, but is half the price! Start asking around! I'll bet there's someone in your play group or bible study who would do just that. She just feels strange doing it in her kitchen but tell her you really don't mind....or have her come to your house.
Girls, there are ways to get your hair done without breaking the bank. Now go get dressed (cause if I remember right, all the sharp haired girls had a cute outfit on!) and get out in the world. No ponytails, make an appointment, sit down and let the hairstylist tell you what would look good on you. The reason most women don't like their hair is that they tell the hairdresser what to do.....what is that all about?!
Happy Day! And if you're visiting my blog for the first time from Crossroads Church, First Baptist of China Grove, or Front Street Baptist, HELLO! Welcome! It was fun being with all of you this past weekend and last night!
Beautiful Blessings, Shari
Monday, May 5, 2008
Chelsea Clinton?
Another exciting weekend! Except this one had a little twist to it, albeit the reason I didn't post on Friday. I was to speak at Crossroads Church on Friday night and all was going pretty smoothly until thursday afternoon. I received a call from CC event coordinator who informed me that the Clinton campaign Faith and Family people called her to see if Chelsea come could to our event on Friday night. Yes, we are talkin' Chelsea Clinton. There, then, continued 36 hours of c-r-a-z-y prep, "is she really coming", buzzing, and all else that comes with any politician's kid coming to your event...think security, social service, you name it, we wondered. So it was pretty exciting until I prayed about it. Seriously. Have you ever gotten yourself worked up over something only to have God decide differently for you? Here's what happened.
The first thing you have to understand is that the enemy hates the Modest is Hottest event. I mean, truly hates it. So every single week, my family or me, or the dancer or the event coordinator or something involved with this show goes under attack. You see, girls and moms are changed. Not by me, but by God. I just get to be the instrument He uses to get His point and message across....which I am so very grateful for. So in the middle of all this "excitement" I forgot to pray about it.
Somewhere a gazillion miles away from here, in Hawaii of all places, there was a sweet sister in Christ who woke up with a burden for me like she'd never had before. We met on the phone about a week ago and talked for a l-o-n-g time. We connected like sisters....and of course we are, in Christ. When she woke on Friday morning, she began praying for me, with a huge burden. She felt I was about to be or was already under some sort of attack from the enemy. She cried out to the Lord on my behalf. And literally, she cried and covered her head with blankets. She was so burdened she even called her pastor. While this was going on, and I would assume it was all happening about the same time, I went to get ready for the evening and it was now near 1pm my time. (Remember we are 6 hours apart.) I began praying. I asked God to please, please make sure His will was part of this whole Chelsea thing. I told him that if I had any pride issue whatsoever in this, please remove it. I told him that if there was one girl who might be coming that evening to meet him for the very first time, then remove it if it would be a distraction. You see, satan is clever. He can get us all caught up in what we might think is "good" or "fun" or "exciting" and completely distract us from what we are supposed to be concentrating on. Oh, he is good at what he does, don't ever forget that.
So, here I am , before God and praying to make sure His will is in all this, asking forgiveness if I'm excited about the wrong thing. And then it happened. I went to my laptop, opened it up, a new e-mail came in right then, and it said this, "Chelsea is not coming tonight."
There, just like that. God had His way.....the enemy did not. Now hear me on this, I'm not saying Chelsea is the enemy.....but she was a distraction and satan will use whatever he can to divert your attention....my attention. I wonder today, what are you supposed to be doing? What has your attention that shouldn't? Where does God want to use you, but you are too busy to pray about it?
I will go back to the issue of Hair tomorrow, but this was just too good not to talk about and share with you. I have a team of 7 women who pray for me. As soon as I heard from Maria in Hawaii, I forwarded her e-mail to them and they started praying. I know I'm under attack on a regular basis....and so are you. It just may not be so obvious. Do a gut check today. Are you distracted? Busy? Call a few friends and ask them to be your prayer warriors. Pray for each other. Send out an e-mail once a week to each other asking for prayer on a specific issue. Dont' ever think satan won't bother you. If you think that, he's already doin' it. I pray you have a beatifully blessed day! love, Shari
The first thing you have to understand is that the enemy hates the Modest is Hottest event. I mean, truly hates it. So every single week, my family or me, or the dancer or the event coordinator or something involved with this show goes under attack. You see, girls and moms are changed. Not by me, but by God. I just get to be the instrument He uses to get His point and message across....which I am so very grateful for. So in the middle of all this "excitement" I forgot to pray about it.
Somewhere a gazillion miles away from here, in Hawaii of all places, there was a sweet sister in Christ who woke up with a burden for me like she'd never had before. We met on the phone about a week ago and talked for a l-o-n-g time. We connected like sisters....and of course we are, in Christ. When she woke on Friday morning, she began praying for me, with a huge burden. She felt I was about to be or was already under some sort of attack from the enemy. She cried out to the Lord on my behalf. And literally, she cried and covered her head with blankets. She was so burdened she even called her pastor. While this was going on, and I would assume it was all happening about the same time, I went to get ready for the evening and it was now near 1pm my time. (Remember we are 6 hours apart.) I began praying. I asked God to please, please make sure His will was part of this whole Chelsea thing. I told him that if I had any pride issue whatsoever in this, please remove it. I told him that if there was one girl who might be coming that evening to meet him for the very first time, then remove it if it would be a distraction. You see, satan is clever. He can get us all caught up in what we might think is "good" or "fun" or "exciting" and completely distract us from what we are supposed to be concentrating on. Oh, he is good at what he does, don't ever forget that.
So, here I am , before God and praying to make sure His will is in all this, asking forgiveness if I'm excited about the wrong thing. And then it happened. I went to my laptop, opened it up, a new e-mail came in right then, and it said this, "Chelsea is not coming tonight."
There, just like that. God had His way.....the enemy did not. Now hear me on this, I'm not saying Chelsea is the enemy.....but she was a distraction and satan will use whatever he can to divert your attention....my attention. I wonder today, what are you supposed to be doing? What has your attention that shouldn't? Where does God want to use you, but you are too busy to pray about it?
I will go back to the issue of Hair tomorrow, but this was just too good not to talk about and share with you. I have a team of 7 women who pray for me. As soon as I heard from Maria in Hawaii, I forwarded her e-mail to them and they started praying. I know I'm under attack on a regular basis....and so are you. It just may not be so obvious. Do a gut check today. Are you distracted? Busy? Call a few friends and ask them to be your prayer warriors. Pray for each other. Send out an e-mail once a week to each other asking for prayer on a specific issue. Dont' ever think satan won't bother you. If you think that, he's already doin' it. I pray you have a beatifully blessed day! love, Shari
Thursday, May 1, 2008
Hair: Part 2
So how did you do yesterday? Did you take some time with getting ready and then pay attention to what others said about your hair? I'd love to hear a few comments on that today. Please be honest. I loved what some of you had to say yesterday and I hope you will post answers today for some of the dilemnas yesterday. For example, Kim from sunflower seeds wants to have help with her curly hair for summer....any input you curly haired girls?
Jeannie had the best compliment of all....from a bald guy! That made me laugh hard! But how awesome that he was secure enough in himself to tell her he liked her hair...and the fact he noticed! Some of you have had your hair cut for 2 weeks now and your husband still hasn't said anything...oh the nerve!
So what do we do today? Continue on your quest for Hair watching...yes, it's sort of like bird watching, except not! Today you will be adding a new element to your hair watching.
Look for 5 women who look really sharp. Seriously. If you have to take notes to report back, then do it. Girls, having good fashion sense comes easily to some, but it doesn't for most, so if you'll stick with me here, I'll take you places... To a fashion world you never even dreamed of. And imagine how your daughters will feel when she thinks her mom has fashion sense? Oh dear. As you look around and find these women, note what her hair looks like....color, cut, length. Remember, I told you to look for women who look sharp. That might mean a mom at the preschool who has her workout clothes on, but she actually looks good in it, right color, matching, you get my drift. It's probably not the one who just threw on her gray sweats and hubby's tshirt, got it? It may be a business woman you see at lunch. It might be a single girl working in a store. It's probably going to be someone who just catches your eye...and you think, wow, she looks really good. Her. That's the one I'm talking about. Now write down what her hair looks like and report back. If you don't want to comment about it, then keep your notes at home and just keep checking in. But this exercise won't work very well if at least 10 of you don't do this homework on the comment section. So pretty please, will you do it? The more the merrier for this one. There really is a purpose for this.
To reader Beth, I will do a swimsuit series within the next 2 weeks! How about that? So get ready girls, I will get you summer ready to look fab in a new suit....swimsuit, that is!
Okay, off to do your hair homework! Be Beautiful! Shari
Jeannie had the best compliment of all....from a bald guy! That made me laugh hard! But how awesome that he was secure enough in himself to tell her he liked her hair...and the fact he noticed! Some of you have had your hair cut for 2 weeks now and your husband still hasn't said anything...oh the nerve!
So what do we do today? Continue on your quest for Hair watching...yes, it's sort of like bird watching, except not! Today you will be adding a new element to your hair watching.
Look for 5 women who look really sharp. Seriously. If you have to take notes to report back, then do it. Girls, having good fashion sense comes easily to some, but it doesn't for most, so if you'll stick with me here, I'll take you places... To a fashion world you never even dreamed of. And imagine how your daughters will feel when she thinks her mom has fashion sense? Oh dear. As you look around and find these women, note what her hair looks like....color, cut, length. Remember, I told you to look for women who look sharp. That might mean a mom at the preschool who has her workout clothes on, but she actually looks good in it, right color, matching, you get my drift. It's probably not the one who just threw on her gray sweats and hubby's tshirt, got it? It may be a business woman you see at lunch. It might be a single girl working in a store. It's probably going to be someone who just catches your eye...and you think, wow, she looks really good. Her. That's the one I'm talking about. Now write down what her hair looks like and report back. If you don't want to comment about it, then keep your notes at home and just keep checking in. But this exercise won't work very well if at least 10 of you don't do this homework on the comment section. So pretty please, will you do it? The more the merrier for this one. There really is a purpose for this.
To reader Beth, I will do a swimsuit series within the next 2 weeks! How about that? So get ready girls, I will get you summer ready to look fab in a new suit....swimsuit, that is!
Okay, off to do your hair homework! Be Beautiful! Shari
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