Happy Valentine's Day!
I pray that today brings you much joy and that this special blog post brings a smile to your face.
My special guest today is Daphne Roberts. Daphne has been a reader of my blog for as long as I can remember having blog readers....much like many of you...and I am sooooo grateful for that. Daphne's makeover is of the "heart" kind...as well as the visual kind. Daphne has opened her heart up to share her struggles with cyclical depression and how her makeover affected her overall well being.
Let's meet her now....and I'm showing her first pics in her before and after COMFY clothes....look at how simple changes in color (she's a DEEP, so by adding a comfy sweatshirt in the RIGHT color brightens her up). Take a look:
Daphne in her BEFORE comfy outfit (notice too light color tends to fade her beautiful coloring.
And her she is in her AFTER comfy clothes! Just a change in the shade of colors, the brighter pink top and the deeper bottoms, makes all the difference!
Let's hear from Daphne now:
Happy Valentine’s Day, ladies! In honor of the day, I am sharing a story from the heart with you. I pray that this touches some of you and helps anyone who may go through similar times.
I’ve been faithfully following Shari’s blog for over a year. I love the practical, Godly advice that she gives to us “regular” gals.
I sent the Makeover questionnaire and some pics to Shari a couple weeks ago, in the midst of what I call a “downtime,” and as I started to come out of that, I looked at it again and cried.
It seemed like a mask over what my life really is. I felt like I had given canned, expected answers…truth, but not at all what I was really feeling.
You see, I suffer from cyclical depression, among other things. It is something that I’ve been aware of for years, but wasn’t officially diagnosed until a couple years ago after I had already been diagnosed with some heart issues and sleep apnea. I never quite know when it’s coming, but I sure do know once I’m a couple days into it!
When I was diagnosed with the other things, I made some changes to become healthier. I lost 50lbs and was only 4lbs from my goal weight. Then the Dr. put me on meds to treat the depression. I gained 10lbs in 3 days. It also made my heart issues worse, so we changed meds. I gained another 5lbs. Somehow, that just didn’t seem to help the depression! I lost my motivation and, since my self-worth had become tied to my weight loss, I lost my sense of who I was.
That was a year ago. I’ve lost a bit of the weight again, but am working harder to rediscover myself in Christ.
My wonderful husband has always been so loving and supportive. I have never felt anything less than treasured by him. The Lord blessed me beyond measure when He brought us together!
It has been with his loving kindness that I’ve come to see just how much this affects our family and I’ve been trying to work through the tough times in a more positive way.
He bought me Shari’s book for Christmas and I read it in a day!
I became overwhelmed because I saw so many “problems” in myself that needed attention! He gave me a big hug and reminded me that God didn’t do it all in one day, so it was ok for me to take baby steps. He has encouraged me to buy some new things that fit into our budget and will expand my wardrobe options.
The second week of January, I could feel myself slipping into a “downtime.” I resolved to remember what I had read in the book and to not spend the next couple of weeks in pj’s or sweats! I didn’t want to even run to the grocery store that way, anymore! I focused on remembering that I am a beautiful creation and that I am WORTH taking care of…please allow me to share a few things that I worked on during that time.
First of all, shower right away in the morning.
I’m not kidding when I say that there are days when that seems like too much and if I put it off, it doesn’t happen. Secondly, wear real clothes. I found that for me, even a coordinating lounge set or track suit is better than pj’s or sweats. I actually have a picture here of the set that I bought. I’m a DEEP, so I have black pants and a dark raspberry colored top. Another tip is to do just a little bit with your hair. I really do mean a little, too. I spend about 3-5mins most days; just enough so that it doesn't look like I just got out of bed.
Also, you’d be surprised sometimes how far a quick swipe of pressed powder, mascara and a little lip gloss will go!
We home school our 2 beautiful children, so another trick for me was to smile at my kids and give them hugs throughout the day. The biggest help has been to really give this over to God. I find myself talking to Him a lot more now and it’s easier to get through a day knowing that He’s right there beside me. It’s not that I don’t still struggle, it’s that
I know that I’m not struggling alone.
Thank you for the privilege of sharing my story with you. I tried to stay focused, though my whole story could be a novel! If you experience similar things, please know that you are not alone and there is at least one person in this world praying for you because she knows how you feel!
I’d love to support my sister, who has a site where she sells tile necklaces that she makes. I’ll be giving away two of her pendants with the ribbon necklaces. We will contact the winners and let them choose their tile design and ribbon color. I’m including a photo of a couple of her necklaces.
If anyone else is interested, they can visit her site at
www.etsy.com/shop/andiehughes . She mostly has kid’s designs up, but can make a pendant using most any image you like.
(Note from Shari....at the time of this posting, it told me the etsy shop was having trouble showing.)
Thank you, thank you, thank you sweet Daphne! Your beautiful story and smile will bring joy to many today and we appreciate your honesty.
Love you much, my friend.
Ohhhh girls, don't you LOVE her honesty? Her realness?
Well, show her some LOVE of your own.....and maybe you'll win one of the necklaces!!!!!!
Happy Heart Day y'all...as they say here in the south!